Catching Up

In order to be in tandem, 2 persons have to move at the same pace. If one dashes forward whilst the other inches on, the gap in between will inevitably widen.

Not that I am saying that the faster one should be moving at the latter's pace. Rather, a good leader is not one who is always ahead of the pack, but one who is able to look back and motivate those behind to move forward. Instead of moving forward alone, isn't it more important for a group to be all moving forward at a reasonable pace?

There is nothing wrong in increasing prices, yes, nothing wrong, if the entire society is indeed progressing well as a whole. Like the countless analogies of stabbing someone and then giving out plasters, I really do not see how increasing GST would benefit the less well off. What does it mean when you say that the economy has improved, that the unemployment rate has gone down? Would you consider an ex-manager currently working as a cleaner as a sign of improvement? I doubt so.

The point is, if the lead is going to continue running at his own pace without looking back, all the while expecting those behind to keep up, someday, he's going to lose sight of them. Then what happens? He would have to stop in order to continue to be a leader of a group instead of the sole member of solitude. In a world that is constantly moving forward, can he afford that?

Perhaps getting a balance in life is always much easier said than done.

The same goes for friendship, doesn't it? Or any human relationship for that matter. If you want things to remain the same, the only way to do so is not to remain unchange, but rather, change at the same rate. Perhaps even at the end of the day when two paths diverge, one can always be glad that you've once been at the same pace.

Food again..

Potato once commented how dressing in a more presentable manner was necessary when meeting up with friends because it was a show of respect. I guess that's true in a way, since I always tend to be awfully late for work on days when I am meeting up with sufficiently important friends, or how I'll put on contact lenses despite a severe lack of sleep (not a result of work, of course).

In any case, the only things pulling me to work today was the thought of lunch with Stephen and Tony as well as dinner with Weiguang. As pathetic as it sounds, yes, this is really what drags me to work and keeps me going nowadays. No wonder I'm turning from fat to fatter! Hah!

If only the AMC were this week, then I could have had a longer lunch with Stephen and Tony, and sneak off with them to get bubble tea (It's supposed to be somewhere nearer Rochor branch, where they are at now although Stephen is coming back to HQ when he's back from Korea!) Sometimes, it's really not the food that matters. Just like, I don't necessary think I do love bubble tea that much. The point is running off to have bubble tea with friends. It's just like how I don't mind having to wait for the 2 guys whilst they (or rather Tony only) get done with servicing. So what if I risk getting breathed down my neck? It's not like my manager, or the other colleagues go for strictly one hour lunch only anyway. (Oh dear, I do hope the matters typed here are not being audited..)

Back to dinner. This time, it's back to Purvis Street although we had some Hainanese food today. Interestingly, even though we had chicken rice balls, I don't remember us ordering any chicken!

Somehow I think the lady serving us must be amused/amazed at how the 2 of us can actually finish 4 dishes within a short span of time. Especially when even I am amused by our eating capability! Then again, it's soo normal when having meals with dinner with either Weiguang or Gary, I think.. Haha..

Talking about my dinner companion. Unfortunately for you, I did manage to get a photo of you!

A smiling Randall looks so different from the expressionless one. Even if you think I'm exaggerating, you really look much better with that smile on your face. That's why my obsession with talking smiling photos of you. So smile more often, k? (And no, that's NOT mothering.. haha)

And finally, the snacks that Mr Tan bought for me!!!

I love them!!! Thank You!!

Even though I love Hei Bai Pei, it really doesn't mean you have to buy that for me all the time! Still... I really really love it!!! Thank you so much!!! =)

Grandmother's Birthday

In between the numerous meeting up with people, it was also grandmother's birthday. Somehow, Wai Po's birthday has always been associated with exams, cause it would always inevitably fall during the exam period.

This year, I was still dreading the thought of Huimin's mum bugging me about my most sensitive topic, ie. work and pay. Her braggy character would be too much a test to my impatience (especially after I've started working here.. As I've told Mr Tan, bitchiness can diffuse in air too.. haha) In the end, I spent most of my time playing/entertaining YanLing and BingRui, which wasn't too bad really.

And, what's grandparents' birthday celebration if there's no food? A pity that Wai Po's ankle/foot is injured this year, so Junyan's mum was in charge. Though I still love Wai Po's noodles best, Junyan's mum's food was impressive too! Especially the yam flowers which look as good as they taste!

Meeting up

Contrary to what someone had 'accused' me of, I'm really much more free the past few weeks, so much so that I've been meeting up with quite a significant number of people over the 3 weeks.

First, my almost-akin-to-monthly lunch with Tee Meng. I couldn't remember why I just couldn't be bothered, but I met up with Tee Meng over lunch, despite my manager not being on leave. Although I really can't remember exactly for now, I still vaguely recall being really unwell that day and Tee Meng kindly agreed to go for some soup-ier food ie. fish slices bee hoon. For those who know me well enough, I hate eating fishes in water. However, the food did me loads of good and I was much better immediately after lunch. Or perhaps it was the company I had. I guess the most memorable food for that day was this shanza ice cream shake drink which Tee Meng thought sounded disgusting but which I thought was really nice:

That evening, I had dinner with a certain Mr Tan at *surprise surprise* Waraku again! This is the third time in a row that we met for dinner there. Mr Tan was still as happy with the food, judging from his happy face.

Dessert was at another Japanese restaurant (after we had gone to that Taiwanese snack shop of course) that I had always wanted to enter. And the dessert didn't disappoint either!

Ah... and I was given a really pretty handphone accessory that I absolutely love even though I had problems hanging it to my silly phone.The following Monday was dinner with Vicknesh. It's been a really long while since I've last met him, the last time being the time I fell off the bicycle and had to go for a client meeting the next Monday with significant plasters. This time round, we decided to be adventurous with food (then again, we've always been, given that the last time round, we ate the outer skin of the fruits for our desserts.. haha). This time, we had our dinner at this Turkey restaurant at Chijmes. Somehow, for the entire time we were there, we were the only customers. Then again, it's really not difficult to figure out why. In fact, if anyone wants to go there, you might want to stick to some dish called "Alexander the Great" or something only. Still, they had rather interesting cups! And exotic dishes.

And then, some time last week, it was a long-talked-about dinner with Mingyi. Some things just don't change. Like how we'll always talk about meeting up for lunch or dinner, but only do so a million years later. I can't exactly remember what we chatted about, but I just remember it was fun.

Just in case anyone wonders, nope, those were just desserts (or starters, since they served it before our main course). And I didn't get to take a photo of my dinner companion too! No thanks to my bad memory!

These are just a few of the dinners/lunch I had. There were others too, like with Beatrice and Chee Min, Weiling and the birthday dinner for Weiling and Alex.

With so many dinners, it's no wonder I'm getting fatter!! Argh! But somehow, I don't seem to be really genuinely worried, given that it was still food last weekend when I went over to Malacca.

That's chicken rice in case you are wondering. And to end it off, here's a night view of Malacca from the balcony.

Do I really look happy?

Kia Meng said that today, when asking about work.

It suddenly reminded me of what Jen Wei told Weiling during pupillage. That I'm happy there.

The most ironic thing is, both times, I wasn't. But, I just didn't want to say.

The feeling of depression is gradually setting in, though I've no idea why now. The feeling of just wanting to break down and cry and cry and cry without any reason. Frankly, I'm tired. I'm tired of having to smile to people I hate to the core and would rather stamp on their toes or give them one tight slap. I'm tired of having to be nice to people because I have to and not because I want to. I'm tired of calculating 6% compound interest and deciding what the most appropriate time would be. I'm tired of the fact that I can't take a real break immediately at the end of the work day even though I'm awfully tired in all aspects.

I need a break to shut myself off everyone and everything.

On another note, the highlight of the day was lunch with Terence, Kia Meng and Jen Wei. Even if someone suddenly dumped a piece of work on me (cause both D and he cannot make it) and I was supposed to have a meeting at 2pm. WTH. I don't even care if the other person would make noise if I'm back after 2pm (in any case, I sent him an email wanting to reschedule to 2.30 but for some reasons he didn't seem to have seen it). I really really really cannot be bothered. Lunch was the only thing that helped me survive through the morning and no way am I going to give it up just for some dumb stuff.

Oh, and PF will be relocating to Hong Kong. That's like less than a year after he left R! Still, I'm glad for him! =)

To 'Grandfather'

Dear GX,

Somehow or rather, I don't seem to be able to say the correct words to find out what's wrong.

But I just want to say, "Jia You, GX!"

And.. you know if you ever need a friend, I'll always be a phone call/sms away.

luv

Fang

Distance makes the heart grow fonder

Or does it?

As people begin to stay apart, their common topics gradually decrease. Slowly, they run out of things to talk about. Then, not wanting to face the awkwardness, they tend to stay away from each other and so the vicious cycle continues.

Sometimes I really wonder how true this phrase is.

Then again, if you look at it from another point of view, two people who have not met each other for a long while continue to stay apart. What remains would be the fond memories of the time spent with each other. As one reminisces those days, one would normally end up lamenting about the "good old times". Everything remains as pretty, so long as everything stays intact (including the distance). One change, and the fragile calm may suddenly be shattered.

It's just like how people tend to be more tolerant of those they don't normally see. Precisely because they don't see each other often, they have a higher limit of tolerance.

Frankly, I don't know and really don't feel like figuring out tonight.

Still remember the shell analogy I used in some letter to Qiuting? I feel like building it again. This time, just hiding myself in it.

Oh another note, I'm glad the package I sent reached the intended owner finally =)

And Itak is once again in Singapore. He actually bought whatever he promised me, even though I told him it wasn't necessary. =)

I think..

Before I make any more new friends, perhaps I should learn to treasure the ones I have first. And at least make an effort to know them better.

Ignore me.. It's just an effect I have after chancing upon a friend's blog yesterday.

On another note, I saw Meisi online! She didn't type anything back. But her brother (at least I think so..) said she said "ok" when I said we'll chat on MSN again someday. I know we'll be able to do that again, Meisi. Jia you!

The lost feeling continues ever since it started yesterday.

Pushover

Over dinner today, I made a comment that Gary agreed with. The fiercest person always wins.

I couldn't help recalling something that Sarah commented about a teacher of hers, and then linked on to me. Am I a pushover? Perhaps no in some aspects, but yes, in quite a few more too.

It's time I stop being a pushover at all, especially when I'm situated in enemy territory.

It's so obvious the little pawn here will be shoved off elsewhere. Eeeeeeeeediots

PS: Just can't help but think it necessary to note my attire to work today. No skirt! Just ask my schoolmates how rare that is! Haha..

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Some photos of Gary looking a bit deliriously happy.. Haha..

A rare moment that Mr Chan is nice, but then, it's most likely because he was too lazy to get another knife!

Network

There was a sentence in an article in today's 'my paper' that mentioned a research by Stanford University that revealed that 12.5% of a person's wealth came from that person's knowledge whilst the remainder 87.5% was dependant upon human relations.

Perhaps that's one tiring thing about growing up.

When we were younger, all the 'don't friend you' and stuff were such common occurences. It was no big deal if you hear it so many times a day (although to a kid, it was a whole lot of deal!) Slowly, the sound of all these 'don't friend you' died down, though it did not necessary mean that you still tried to live (ok, or maybe study) harmoniously with the others. Then came life university (ie. work) where you learnt how things are not necessary what they seem, and the best of way of protecting yourself is, interestingly, to have as large a network as possible.

Though that doesn't necessary mean that you have more friends. Simply because network is not necessary equivalent to friends.

When talking about networking, the first person that came to my mind was the HCB (refer to Gary for the meaning.. haha) sitting near me. A all-talk-no-action yeee-diot who's greatest strength in life is probably networking. That suits him fine too, because from the look of it, he doesn't suffer much from his eee-diocy.

Which is no wonder why Caroline asked me to join them for the trip to Batam (which I am going for). Actually, without the possibility of Itak's offer to bring me around, I would be way more hesistant. Then again, like what some had said, it's just 1 night, I won't die of that. If all else fails, just stick to smiling =)

Perhaps short term networking is not as tough as really maintaining a friendship. Was immersed in the fictitious world of a particular book the last 2 days. A book that at the beginning reminded me of a person and made me rethink certain thoughts. Yet, at the end of the day, I've finally noticed the obvious difference between the characters in the book and the people in real life. For one thing at least, no matter where they were, they would always be keeping in touch, and be genuinely concerned about their friend. Unlike real life.

Still, interestingly, it doesn't really matter to me.

Lijia made a comment today, something to the effect of friendster and my friends. Jia, if you are referring to the testimonials, I'll just say, testimonials are never a true reflection, at least not when both parties write for each other. It's different from our school testimonials since we don't write our teachers' testimonials (err... right, teachers?) =)

The 'delinquent'

Once again, I feel so much like a delinquent today.

Then again, who cares, since I had a rather enjoyable day today!

Somehow I still think that when things get really really good, something bad will occur. Just as when things are really really bad, there's no other direction to go, but to take a turn for the better. Perhaps the unhappiness for the week was the consideration for the 'treat' yesterday and today.

Itak told me yesterday afternoon that he would be coming to Singapore last night because of the Australian study fair this weekend. Why would I decline the invitation to tag along?

And so, after being late for quite a significant amount of time (not my fault, the two of them didn't reply my sms on whether they had gotten up or not, and in any case, I think they woke up late) we spent the whole day really walking around. Itak is still very much the big brother, and Edi was highly fun to be with too. In the midst of the day, Itak's senior dropped by too, but rushed back to Batam within a few hours.

In any case, it was really tiring, but it also made my day..

Friday the 13th...
I've always looked forward to Friday the 13th, ever since I had my Primary 6 English prelims on a Friday the 13th. Somehow or rather, it normally would end up being a happy day for me, and thus, I would always relish it whenever it came up.

That is till early in the morning. In fact, I thought the day would be a really horrid one. Thankfully, it wasn't so right till the end.

Firstly, I finally figured one website that I wanted to use, that wasn't blocked by some ultra dumb people. Thanks to that too, I got wind of a news that brightened up the evening.

And of course, given that I didn't really want to come home too early, I met up with Peiqi.

My belated children's day present! Just in case the contents are not seen clearly, there's biscuits, sweets (there's one sweet that I think happens to be the one that LwW likes!), chocolates, clips (similar to what a certain Mr Lin bought for me), cute mechanical pencils, a pen and some art&craft thing. Thanks Peiqi!! =)

We had our dinner at PastaMania:

After which we adjourned to Haagen Daaz for our fondue:

Just look at how happy and proud Ms Tan is of her chocolate coated ice-cream!! Too bad the ice-cream melted really quickly, so much so that the chocolate coat for one of the subsequent ones fell back into the melted chocolate and made it look thick. And THAT was what led to Ms Tan's creation, which stupid blogspot refuses to let me put up, for now. Oh well..

Unbecoming..

Guoxing, thanks for the offer to let me call you in the wee hours of the morning. Even though, I felt better after smsing you and subsequently fell asleep.

It's a bad idea to be really upset till you fall asleep. My head hurts a little now.

Eh Wenwei, I want to play the game you suggested on your blog!

On another note, it's almost O levels. Do hope the sec 5s from CVSS do well this year! Sherwin (in case you ever see this), what's over is over. Ignore your prelim grades and do better for your 'O's! I'm sure your command of English is still as good, even not better than when I first knew you! Good luck! And I do miss you all!

Ah.. and Gek Koon's project is due on Monday! Hope he's more or less done!!

"No dreamz!"

Been saying that to a particular friend very often lately, but I don't think it applies to me. Then again, having dreams may not be a bad thing, at least in my case.

Had a really weird dream last night. My pupil master got back to me regarding a particular piece of research (which doesn't make much sense given that I remember so clearly that that piece of research had nothing to do with langar cases, nor medical negligence ones). Then again, the dream wasn't totally baseless either, as in, throughout the dream, I was very clear that (1) I'm no longer a pupil there and (2) I'm already working elsewhere, ie. where I am now.

In any case, for some reasons or other, I just felt cheered up in my dream. The funniest part was still the dream within a dream. Cause the next scene had me waking up, and the first thing I did was to check my handphone to confirm it was a dream. I guess the only difference was that in the dream, I was not waking up from a dream whereas that wasn't so in real life.

Does one’s opinion change with the flux of time? Perhaps.

The person in the dream actually asked to buy her pupil master lunch. The person in real life probably won’t, even though she really wants to tell her pupil master how much she appreciated having him as her pupil master. Then again, even if she did buy her pupil master lunch, she’ll probably still be too tongue tied at lunch! No wonder, save for the pupil master, the rest of the world thinks she’s scared of her pupil master.

But the dream was a nice change, if only people can choose not to wake up from their dreams! =)

Contradictory

There's this particular radio station that allows people to sms to vote for one out of two songs to be played on the radio at 6 plus almost 7.

For today, the song that I would prefer also happens to be the song that I don't want to hear at the same time. Contradictory huh?

Nevermind, will be having dinner then, so I wouldn't hear it either. Still, I sure hope it wins. Haha..

=)

To the person who had to play the lullaby 5 times yesterday, thank you! I slept (plus fell asleep) earlier than usual yesterday! Too bad, you're not allowed to try that too often, cause it'll not work all the time! =p That said, I don't mind listening to you playing your guitar more often too! (Don't forget your promise! I want to use the song as my ringtone!)

Still, I don't understand why I'm even more sleepy although I slept slightly earlier yesterday.

I'm really much better, but somehow the escapist, distant yet hyper girl that I was is beginning to surface again. Hmm.. And I don't know why, I just had the sudden urge to look at a particular "video" of my graduation last year..

On another note, how many nut cases will be so happy to see an email addressed to Carrot and grin at the sight of "no time to arrange my stationery"? Feels so distant, yet so wonderfully familiar. It's been such a long time since I've addressed Ben as Tomato. Just as what I told Qi-en that day, Ben was the first person in Rodyk (except the partners, of course) to know I might be moving over to Rodyk for my pupillage and I had promised tomato juice then! Yet till now, I haven't had the chance to buy him lunch for being such a fun and nice senior to have around.

Oh, and Adrian smsed last night to say that he's now at IPOS! (My guess was right! I wonder how many of them won) That's like so near here!! Even if I won't really see him around anyway, the thought of having friends nearby just make things seem even brighter!

Thank you!

All these thanking on my blog makes it feel more like the Oscars.. but then again, who cares, right?

Thanks, Citra!! =) (Hope I didn't take up too much of your rest time, given how noisy I was!)

Thanks Wenwei!! (Don't worry so much, you'll just age faster!)

Thanks Gary!! (You drink more warm water too, k?)

Even though I'll NEVER ever say this in real life....

I love you guys!!! =)

For all the rest of those whom I've thanked in this blog too! I really love you all, I really really do!

Beach? Playground? Or anything brainless, anyone?

Anyone game enough for any of the above today?

I just want some mind numbing activities.

Koon, thanks for noticing my sub-nick last night and smsing me. Same goes for Yuting and Weiguang.

And Chee Min too.

Cheerfulness means..

1. Being out with friends who matter to you.

Was out with Jeremy last evening to watch World Trade Centre. Come to think of it, it was a bit of 'forced to', cause if he hadn't offered the lift, I would probably not even consider since I was really really tired. Then again, it could be that the idea of meeting up with Jeremy was a refreshing change from the grind of facing the enemies daily.

Whatever it is, I was really glad to meet up with Jeremy yesterday.

Come to think of it, I haven't seen him since I went up to Legal. Maybe even earlier than that, given his last day was a few days earlier than mine. It's interesting how simple friendships forged over a short period of time can be so much more comforting than the complex human relations build over a longer period. Perhaps there just wasn't any need to make use of one another in order to advance.

In any case, the number of real smiles on my face within those few hours way exceeded any smiles I put up in the office. Seriously, it felt really good! =)

2. Receiving emails from friends who are important to you

Despite his views that he's not good with words, the email from Wenwei the other day was already super sweet.

And then, I received another email from one of my nicest friends today that brought my brain back (after being missing for quite a while) just to type this.

Who says your email is a complaint email? If it were, I wouldn't be smiling as I read it, right? In fact, actually, no matter what you typed, I'll still be super happy to see any personal email from you! haha... I'm easily pleased, can? =)

And of course, this phrase "let's meet up soon, k?? maybe in mid oct...." cheers me up most! Thank you!

3. Looking at the things from people who matter

Ok, this point is not very much a reflection of the past few days. Still, it's mid autumn festival today, and how can I not play with my favourite lantern? Thanks Gek Koon! For spoiling me last year! =) I love that lantern!! =)

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Ok, time for me to pull Mr Zhou away from harassing Gek Koon! Haha.. and before Mr Lin continues to nag... (yes Mr Lin, you nag!) =)

Ramblings at the end of the day

One of my colleague sitting on the opposite side of the office sent this to me earlier:

"hey, you ok? you look glum... "

Silly as this may sound, I actually found the email nice! =) As I've said earlier (or have I?) I love attention... Haha..

Income Day dinner later. On one hand, I'm glad I won't have to be tortured by having dinner with people I don't want to eat with. On the other hand, my pupil master (or according to Shijie's reminder, should be my ex-pupil master since I'm no longer a pupil) is going, and I'll be really really glad to see my pupil master.