Network
There was a sentence in an article in today's 'my paper' that mentioned a research by Stanford University that revealed that 12.5% of a person's wealth came from that person's knowledge whilst the remainder 87.5% was dependant upon human relations.
Perhaps that's one tiring thing about growing up.
When we were younger, all the 'don't friend you' and stuff were such common occurences. It was no big deal if you hear it so many times a day (although to a kid, it was a whole lot of deal!) Slowly, the sound of all these 'don't friend you' died down, though it did not necessary mean that you still tried to live (ok, or maybe study) harmoniously with the others. Then came life university (ie. work) where you learnt how things are not necessary what they seem, and the best of way of protecting yourself is, interestingly, to have as large a network as possible.
Though that doesn't necessary mean that you have more friends. Simply because network is not necessary equivalent to friends.
When talking about networking, the first person that came to my mind was the HCB (refer to Gary for the meaning.. haha) sitting near me. A all-talk-no-action yeee-diot who's greatest strength in life is probably networking. That suits him fine too, because from the look of it, he doesn't suffer much from his eee-diocy.
Which is no wonder why Caroline asked me to join them for the trip to Batam (which I am going for). Actually, without the possibility of Itak's offer to bring me around, I would be way more hesistant. Then again, like what some had said, it's just 1 night, I won't die of that. If all else fails, just stick to smiling =)
Perhaps short term networking is not as tough as really maintaining a friendship. Was immersed in the fictitious world of a particular book the last 2 days. A book that at the beginning reminded me of a person and made me rethink certain thoughts. Yet, at the end of the day, I've finally noticed the obvious difference between the characters in the book and the people in real life. For one thing at least, no matter where they were, they would always be keeping in touch, and be genuinely concerned about their friend. Unlike real life.
Still, interestingly, it doesn't really matter to me.
Lijia made a comment today, something to the effect of friendster and my friends. Jia, if you are referring to the testimonials, I'll just say, testimonials are never a true reflection, at least not when both parties write for each other. It's different from our school testimonials since we don't write our teachers' testimonials (err... right, teachers?) =)
6 comments:
I think that the "don't friend you" thing still exists after we've grown up. It's just that we don't vocalise it anymore.
Networking is of course very important. But it is because of these "networking friends" that the line between them and your real friends starts to blur. Who are your real friends? Where does one draw the line? Does it mean that two people are close just because they share certain stuff with each other that they don't with other people?
grr.. can you stop using 'tofu massacre'?
I think the blurry line leads to how adults tend to have few real friends. Each of us just behaves the 'can't-be-bothered-even-if-someone-says-they-had-to-sleep-with-a-penguin'manner, to the point that, we sometimes get so used to it, we don't even know where we're heading.
Either that, or we become suspicious of others too, and act in a wary manner. Both sounds equally bad right?
Enjoy your HCB day rest yah? =)
Haha, I don't just mean the testimonials, which I do agree are unrealistic... (Who writes bad testimonials and expects to be published anyway?)
I see from your words, your pictures, your daily concerns, that you are involved in friends' lives (not in a superficial so-what-if-you-sleep-with-a-penguin way) and that you truly care about their welfare. You love your friends, and rightly so, most of them love you back. I say 'most' because there will always be one or two who will take sincere friendship for granted. Let them go sleep with penguins then. Love you!
Lijia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for the glowing testimonial here too huh? =)
Actually, sometimes, it could also be a matter of luck. That, you have friends who care a lot, or at least you think so, so you tend to care as much for them too, don't you agree? It's just like YOU!!! =)
You've suddenly reminded me of how over the years, I still get the honour of calling you Lijia, even though everyone else is not allowed to (or at least that was what happened in JC, agree?) =)
*hugz*
Haha *hugs* you're right! You still remember that huh? It gives me the bumps whenever someone whom I'm not familiar with addresses me by that. It's just such a personal thing - only parents or relatives who carried me while I was still a puking baby could call me that. ;)
Wah... But I didn't carry you when you were a puking baby, right? Haha..
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